Here are some thoughts from me at year sixteen, with hopefully thirty more to go:
1.) Ministry
is frequently lonely.
2.) You
will be compared unfavorably to your predecessor, because you were in part a
reaction hire (you had strengths where he had weaknesses). Your successor will be unfavorably compared
to you, and will likely be a reaction hire.
3.) Preaching
is the greatest, awfulest thing in the world.
4.) It
is hard to be productive when you are the one in charge of your own schedule. Using time well is difficult, when you are
the master of your own schedule.
5.) You
will feel guilty about the time spent doing the very things you need to do to
be a productive pastor.
6.) A
lot of the scary myths of seminary just aren’t true (unrealistic expectations
of your wife, on your time, on your children).
Usually, a church wants to love you.
You will always be held at a bit of a distance, but this is part of
being in the ministry.
7.) Be
more patient about change.
8.) But
don’t be too patient about change.
9.) Every
church has a personality and a set of unwritten rules and assumptions about
pastors. Be careful not to misread this.
10.)
It can be difficult to find ways to inject yourself
into your peoples’ lives.
11.)
Some people will profoundly dislike you, and neither
you nor they could verbalize why.
12.)
You will get very close to some people towards the end
of their lives. They will die, and you
will grieve deeply. Don’t underestimate
the power of that grief.
13.)
Understanding the expectations of any particular church
is a tricky thing.
14.)
God will often give you a few folks who serve as your
surrogate family. Develop those
relationships and be grateful for them.
Sometimes these people will eventually pull away from you, and you will
be reminded again that one of the costs of ministry is being separated from
your family. Let this help you long for
heaven.
15.)
You will discover ugly ambition in yourself and it may
show itself in pettiness, jealousy, and bitterness.
16.)
When people leave your church, it hurts. When they leave because of you, it hurts
double. This will happen.
17.)
Sometimes you will be paralyzed by an overwhelming
sense of your own inadequacy.
18.)
At some point, somebody will probably accuse you of not
preaching the gospel. Make sure they’re
wrong.
19.)
If you can’t hold people’s interest with Scripture for
twenty-five minutes, it’s not the Scripture that’s boring.
20.)
Short notes of encouragement to people who are going
through tough times or serving the Lord faithfully mean a lot. A pastor who notices and is thankful is
appreciated.
21.)
Expect to go through the well of grief and suffering to
make you useful to others. I was just
reading about the late Dr. Henry Bast, the paragon of expositors among the
Dutch Reformed in the middle part of the twentieth century. He buried two wives and a son, and Parkinson’s
caused him to lay down his career and he languished his last six years unable
to walk and only talking with great difficulty.
Make sure it makes you useful and not bitter or withdrawn.
22.)
God does not promise that faithful churches will
flourish.
23.)
Reach out to people.
This is hard if you are introverted as many Reformed people are. Find ways to compensate for your
introversion.
24.) Work to improve your preaching. Many pastors think about what to preach but stop thinking about how to preach. Yet, the 'how' dictates how the 'what' is heard and is of equal importance.
Thanks for this list, Ken. Very helpful. GT
ReplyDeleteExcellent.. Thank-you very much! Your very post is evidence of the reality that fruit for others comes out of one's own suffering/experience. Our reward is great.
ReplyDeleteA very good read. I so appreciate you for many reasons: a Godly man, a good husband, a peaceful calmness about you, and of course a wonderful preacher. I am grateful for your ministry and mentoring in my son's life. Mary Jo
ReplyDeleteThanks for these wise words. I trust I can remember them as I enter seminary in a few weeks down your way!
ReplyDeleteJason Wegener, Wichita, KS
You ought to open it up to additions, for I am sure there are a wealth of other suggestions, as well. For instcnce, preaching is your primary job. Make sure that, as a professional communicator, you communicate. Preaching is not speaking AT. It is communicating WITH. Study preaching and preachers. Getting the interpretation of a passage right right is just part of it.
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